9 things to do, to get the role you want

I am tired of hearing that women are still being told, "dress for the role you want, and you will get it." They are being taught that Executive Presence means being able to make impactful presentations (read as "ppt skills") and wearing executive-like clothes i.e. skirt or pant suits.

How naive do they think women are? How long will women be evaluated based on how they look and what they wear?

Here's my advice to get promoted or get an expanded role. These apply to men and women, but am addressing women more, thru this post.

1. Define and articulate your career aspirations. A 3plus Survey I recently read showed that 83% of men vs 16% of women have clear articulated career plans. If you don't know where you want to go and how you want to get there, you will stay stationary, or just "grow with the flow", as I call it. Works perfectly well in a growing economy / industry and at lower management levels. It is a disaster after that.

2. Superb performance is a basic requirement. It is rare that you will get promoted when your performance places you at the bottom of the heap. So, if you want a promotion or an expanded role or even a role change to something that's not a conventional move, you are going to have to perform well & be acknowledged for it. Don't forget, superb performance also includes doing something out of the ordinary, something impactful. Beating your goals is not enough. You gotta go beyond. Read about Nadia Comaneci's record breaking perfect 10 in the 1976 Olympics, for inspiration.

3. Ask for the change. Stop hinting. Stop assuming that there is someone with a crystal ball and wand. That they will miraculously divine your career ambitions and give it to you. Ask for the role you want and state what you are willing to do to shine in the role (keeping it all in line with your articulated career aspirations). Keeping quiet makes you forgettable. And being forgotten never got anyone the role they wanted.

4. Do the next level job, don't wait to be promoted. Waiting to be promoted to show your leadership ability, influence and action only enables someone else to get that role you coveted. Work at the next level. Do some portions of the next level job you want. Do it well. Make it a no-brainer for your supervisor / the promotion panel to formally give you the role you want. Do the job first, the promotion will follow soon.

5. Have more than one successor in place. Because organizations want & need the abundance of choice when it comes to good talent. Successors showcase you as a leader who develops other leaders. Not just a leader who creates another leader. Each-on-make-one does not help build organization and leadership capacity.
Having successors in place pushes you to look for a bigger job for yourself. It also ensures that the organisation looks for roles for you. After all, you are a superb performer, have clearly articulated your career aspirations, are working at the next level, and you build leaders as you grow.

6. Delegate. Delegate. Delegate. You have super powers, but doing everything should not be one of them. You can not do everything. More important you should not do everything. You need to know what is happening, not do it yourself, even if doing the work yourself would just be so much faster, better, stronger, higher. You don't want to be a bottleneck limiting your teams ability to get more done. Teach and delegate. Have your control and recovery mechanisms in place. If you manage this well, you will suddenly find you have more time. More time to plan your career move.

7. You are smart. That may mean you need to communicate more. Many smart people tend not to communicate enough. It is almost as if they believe that if they can understand themselves, so can others. As leaders we need to be able to communicate with a wide variety of people. People who have different interests, intent and drivers. A single style, your own style, will only ensure that people, often the doers, won't understand what they need to action.

8. Ensure you get the right feedback. Not generic feedback. Not criticism. Real feedback. And what is real feedback? Feedback that is specific & actionable. When you get feedback ensure you ask or categorise it into 3 areas:

What should you start doing and why?

What should you stop doing?

What should you continue doing?

9. Don't wait till you are 100% ready before taking the job. If I am 100% ready for a job when I take it on, chances are, that I will be bored with it in a few short weeks or months. My advice? Take on a job when you don't know how you are going to achieve what needs to be done. It's the thrill of the chase, of learning, of achieving what you didn't know was possible, that should excite and motivate. Waiting till you have all the experience listed in a job description, will give others the change to take what you want while you are scampering around the edges. 

Korea Stories - Part 3 - #MadAboutFlowers

I've been back for 5 days and I am still fangirling South Korea. There is so much I have seen, experienced and learned. Expect more posts about #SouthKorea. 

This blog is all about how South Koreans are #MadAboutFlowers. And so am I.

I noticed the flowers first on the highway drive between Incheon Airport to Gimpo Airport. I am sure, now, that there were flowers in the airport, but my sleepy fogged out brain did not register it. 

On the drive between the two airports I noticed bright flowers on the safety railings on the side of the road, and I thought, "so pretty".  

In no way did the trip between airports, prepare me for the riot of colors, forms & structures of flower arrangements that I was going to see in Korea.

I soon noticed that there were flowers on lampposts, in huge cauldrons on streets, and in baskets in front of shops & cafes.


Large road crossings have flower arrangements as do bridges. Solely for the pleasure of citizens and tourists.

Then there are the parks and gardens. Every city has these green zones. Consciously planned and planted to be more than just the lungs of the city. They are planted , maintained,  manicured artistically and color co-ordinated for people to enjoy, relax, and.... take pictures.

Even more elaborate are the arrangements in the temple complexes. A feast for the eyes that needs a dedicated post.

Every house / apartment / dwelling has flowers. On windowsills, on the side of driveways & doors, in gardens big and some seriously handkerchief sized. 

It looks like every Korean home has someone with a green thumb. 

Even the Ginseng Museum had a bouquet carved out of ginseng. 

Truly, they are #MadAboutFlowers. 

In a good way. In a fun way. In a way the gives pleasure.

The interesting thing I noticed was that the gargantuan volume of flowers are in pots. No one, literally, no one, ever picked up and walked away with a pot. No one plucked a flower. 

Unlike what happens so often in Indian parks and public spaces. Every time I walk in the park at home, there will be people who pluck flowers for pooja, depriving everyone, other than themselves and their God, the pleasure of nature's bounty. 

I am going to come back to this post just to enjoy the colors and remember how they made me feel.

These photos were taken in autumn. Summer must be a dream.

Korea Stories - Part 2 - The Best Buddhist Temple Food

One of the big tourist attractions in Korea is a Buddhist Temple stay. It is a way to immerse yourself in the life of a monk for a few hours or a few days. While I did not do this, I did the second best thing - had the most sumptuous Buddhist temple food at Sanchon (http://www.sanchon.com/home/index.php)

Travelling and eating in Korea for a vegetarian is difficult. So, to find Sanchon was a blessing. It is tucked away in a by-lane off Insadong main market street. Our taxi driver had to call the restaurant and someone came to the market street to escort us. Here is a map to help you find the place (Red marks the spot, green is Insadong market street)

Inside, the first thing I was asked to do was wash my hands. I spent more time looking at the sink and porcelain figures, absorbing the feel of green vegetation shadows thru gentle sunlight and inhaling deeply the pure smell of rice cooking and less time on washing my hands in cold clear water.

Sanchon has a fixed 4 course vegetarian meal for lunch. Each course has a minimum of 5 items. Starting with pine tea that tasted more like wine :-)

and ending with cinnamon tea and 4 types of fritters.

This meal for 2 is sumptuous and way too much to eat in one sitting, so be ready to loosen your belt in the middle of the meal. Also, walking down Insadong street for a couple of hours after the meal helps a bit! Here are some photos of the dishes. 

There is also a hot soup that comes bubbling to the table.

Sanchon's ambience is calming - obviously an aid to tasting flavours, experiencing textures, appreciating the temperature differences of the dishes, taking in the vibrant colors, and not to forget, digestion.

Even the restroom is beautiful, filled with original art.

There is a little store on the side, where you can buy some of the dry foods you just ate - fritters, chips, seaweed, etc. And bowls, chopsticks, local artifacts.

Sanchon is owned by a former 

Buddhist monk Jungsan Kim Yun-sik, who was a monk for 17 years. As a monk he learned to cook temple food and has curated the best temple cusines from accross Korean monestries to create the menu.

Note: This meal is expensive, but so worth every penny, cent, paise, won or any other currency you may be familier with.

Korea Stories - Part 1

So impressed with South Korea! 4 days here and I am already recommending it as a lace to vacation. Why? 

It starts with the beginning of the journey.

1. Korean Airlines aircraft and staff. Seats and screens are bigger. There is more legroom. And every seat has a USB port to plug in a device - even small domestic flights. Our international flight was not full so the staff booked passengers in thier seat-of-choice and well spread apart so that everyone could have a vacant seat next to them. 

2. Easy airport transfers. They think about what people need and plan for it. From quick and easy baggage retrieval to portable wifi rental to transfers between international and  domestic airport, via an amazingly comfortable dot-on-time limolusine bus. All payments are electronic so no need for money exchange / cash.

3. Helpful. Tho' language is a problem if you don't know Korean. People are helpful. They will walk with you to show you where to go. Or another patron will jump in to help translate. Or one staff member will ask a colleage to interpret our English (or the crazy, often epeleptic gestures we make).

4. Food. If you are a vegetarian life is gonna be more than tough. Say "No beef, no pork, no chicken, no fish, no shrimp, no meat. Only vegetables." In that order. Find a local to write it out in Korean. There is amazing vegetarian Korean food. Mainly side dishes, but so flavourful that it can be a main meal.

5. Flowers. They are everywhere. In gardens (including potted gardens). In parks. On shop counters. In large pots on sidewalks. On bridges. Even in pots hung on the side of the road. 

I am here in autumn and can only imagine the riot of colors in summer.

More on my trip soon in another post.